We have all heard about the “perfect wedding.” It’s wedding season and therefore the perfect wedding is the hot topic. From choosing the right bridesmaids to food allergy concerns, planning a wedding can be exhausting and adding the extra pressure of perfection isn’t ideal. We often hear brides saying their wedding day was the “best day of their lives” but not because it was perfect. A bride can drive herself crazy picking linens and floral arrangements, or agonize over the boutonnieres but at the end of the day only she will notice the minor imperfections. My suggestion is to shift focus to the key elements that serve as the statement pieces of any wedding.
1. Bridal Gown.
Yes both the bride and the groom will be standing in front of their loved ones, but no one I repeat no one will be asking what the groom is wearing. He gets quick glances from the guests and the occasional daze from those waiting to see if he will shed a tear but that’s it. From the moment the bride starts her journey down the aisle, everyone is focused on her. Bridal gown selection can be tricky. Try on different styles, fits, and even colors. I envisioned myself in a mermaid gown but was told repeatedly that I didn’t have the body for it. However, I went with my gut and tried it on and it was the perfect style for me. It created curves that I didn’t have and accentuated my natural frame.
2. Food Selection.
This is definitely a hot topic at any wedding but it is also where most of the money is spent. Food is expensive but making the wrong food choices can make or break the wedding experience for guests. A typical wedding is between 4-6 hours, and increases depending on the culture. On a normal day, we typically eat every 3-5 hours, and for some odd reason everyone is starving at weddings. I’m not saying break the budget for entrees but there has to be a realistic balance. No one wants guests to leave because they are hungry or have to grab something to eat on the way home because the food wasn’t appetizing. Of course everyone won’t be happy but the vast majority should be. Served plates are traditionally used at more formal weddings but I’ve seen this decline primarily because the larger the wedding the more this costs and there’s a greater chance the food will be cold. Not everyone is open to a buffet especially at a black tie affair so a great alternative is food stations. Even add an onsite chef preparing fresh entrees or protein. Guests aren’t just sitting around waiting for food or waiting in line for 30 minutes.
Choose DJs or live bands wisely. Music sets the mood, and just like food can absolutely make or break a wedding experience. Don’t just pick a band or DJ because a planner recommended them, test them out and see what they have to offer. Also, there is no set rule that there has to be either a DJ or a band. I had both. The band played for the ceremony and cocktail hour, and the DJ played during the reception. Two awesome vendors are East Coast Entertainment, who manage live entertainment in multiple cities and DJ Demp.
This element is a no brainer. Invest in the photographer even more so than the videographer. Honestly, I’ve watched my wedding video once but I’ve stared at my wedding photos over 100 times. I absolutely adore my photographer, Cendino Teme. Yes my photos are awesome but the experience is what I loved the most. No bride wants to be rushed or have to remind the photographer what he or she should be doing. That’s not what they get paid to do. My photographer definitely set the standard.
5. Time Management.
Spoiler Alert: Weddings never stay on schedule. They may start on time but somewhere along the way, groomsmen are on a wild goose chase for rouge groomsmen, bridesmaids are taking selfies in the bathroom, and guests refuse to let the newlyweds enjoy the food they paid for because they insist on taking pictures. This is what weddings are about. No matter how much planning goes into the big day, time management is always an issue. I planned my entire wedding from start to finish but it was critical that I have a Day of Coordinator, and I Do Details was exactly what I needed. I didn’t worry at all. I told her my vision and she executed perfectly. It’s not realistic to think that a bride or a groom, or even a member of the bridal party can coordinate every aspect of the wedding on the big day. Choose someone that is organized and never late.
There’s truly no such thing as a perfect wedding. There will be bumps in the road and minor things that just aren’t right but overall every couple should feel like it was one of the best days of their lives. I know I do. Now can someone convince my husband to do it all over again!
Forever Fierce, Fabulous & Flawless!